Saturday 25th January, 2104

Good Afternoon All,

So as I said yesterday, I am in search of personal happiness. My first goal is DE cluttering my heart, soul and mind. After completing stage one, my mind, next is stage two, heart. This stage is hard and I still haven't reached the end. After losing two grandparents in the last two years, I have cluttered my heart with their personal items. When we lose a family member/someone close, we receive personal items of theirs and funeral booklets etc. I am finding it very hard to part with them from my view. I know it clutters my house and I am trying to DE clutter the house of knick knack but I am finding it hard to box them away in a cupboard. I have placed photos away in boxes and kept a couple of photos in view. I have kept a brooch of nana's in my room. I have a photo of my granddad next to my DH's record player, my granddad loved country music. I have framed an album of his that will hang on the wall in my living room. I wear a necklace of my nana's and my DD wears one too. My home office is cluttered with boxes of items and photos. I know I need to go through them but find it still to painful. I know it has to be done. Have you got any tips for DE cluttering loved ones items. My brother in-law plays a game of chuck it, but I can't chuck these items.

                                                               My nana & me in 1979

As I said yesterday, our happiness is our own happiness. No one else can tell us how to be happy or make us happy. We have to look down deep inside to find our own happiness. Most of us, me included, live our life, day by day, doing the same things, just getting it done. Reading Gretchen's books, has helped me to realise that we all need to get out of this rut. I am in a large rut of checklists and routine. Time to shake it up and not do what society thinks we should do. We don't need anyone's approval to be happy.

I know I need to go through those boxes and I know I need to clean them so I can move onto stage three, DE cluttering my soul. I don't even know at the moment what that means. How does one clear the soul of clutter? I know that I need to find my belief again. My belief in me, family and God. I feel like my life is so cluttered with negativity that I have shut out all belief in life. With society changing, I have lost my belief in life being good.

Keep Smiling. Cheers, Mama Kerry

Friday 24th January, 2014.

Good evening all,

It has been a while since my last post. I have been busy finishing my past life and welcoming my new life. 2014 is all about finding the happier and stronger KERRY! This will help me achieve the big goal of been a better mother and wife.

This of course all came about with the New Year Resolution. Most of us are unable to achieve these resolutions. This year for Christmas from a family member, I was given a book called, Happier at Home by Gretchen Rubin. Just reading the back of the book made me find my e-reader and download the first book, The Happiness Project. I dived straight in. I think with the support of these books, magic, can and will happen.

                                                  http://gretchenrubin.com/

Then comes the questions of what will make ME HAPPY. This is a very big question and also very personal. Everyone has different things that make them happy. My first stop, to DE clutter my heart, mind and soul. First DE clutter, quit my dental job so I can free my mind.

I finished working at the dentist on Tuesday. My mind is free, my shoulders are free of tension. I feel so much better. FREE!!! Of course, everyone's goals are different. Of course, I now work for my DH or more to the point, I am now his boss! I am not suggesting, quit your job without having another job lined up. This is what I needed to make me feel free.
So please leave your comments on what your happiness goals would be. This is a very important part of every mum's life, to find their own happiness. We spend so much time ensuring our partners and children are happy that our own happiness disappears. Just try it. You will be surprised how much better you feel. At least try to smile more. A lady who smiles, looks younger and more beautiful.

Cheers, Mama Kerry :-)